Disappointment is defined in Webster’s Dictionary as “defeated in expectation or hope.” Disappointment is an emotion that is characterized by a feeling of regret or sadness and is related to some type of loss. The loss may be the loss of a relationship, the choices of a family member or even changes in our circumstances, such as the loss of a job or home, failing to get something that we were hoping for, or a bad medical diagnosis. Just as people are unique and different, our responses to disappointment are exclusive to us individually.
Disappointments can leave us feeling overwhelmed, because there is no way to "undo" the circumstance, that we may now find ourselves in and may leave us feeling hopeless. Our reaction to disappointment and the way we choose to overcome them, is often influenced by the source of the disappointment and the determination that we have in getting over them and moving on. Feeling disappointment is not necessarily an issue to be concerned about, but, it is the inability to deal with the emotion and to let go of the pain that can become an issue.
Dealing with disappointment takes a conscious effort. At some point you must make the effort to let whatever has disappointed you go and stop talking about it. Move on by changing your mindset to think about other things. Especially the good things that are in your life and the possibilities for a brighter future. Letting go of your disappointment and of any anger or bitterness associated with it will free your mind of the turmoil and will help you to live a life at peace. You will never move on from where you are in your disappointments until you make the decision to stop thinking about it, talking about it and living with it every day, allowing it to consume your thoughts, catering to it, fueling it by constant talk and pity.
Yes, after a while your disappointments become self-pity and will keep you down in the deepest pit of despair, to which no one can get you out but yourself. You must make the choice to climb out and over that disappointment, because you may very well be missing the best thing that will ever happen to you because you are so consumed with your past. Stop looking at the Illusion of what you wished it had been and look at your current reality.
Experience is a great teacher. Disappointment is inevitable. While it may not feel good at the time, experiencing disappointment and learning to overcome it can help prepare you for difficult situations that may be in the future. Whether disappointment occurred because of a mistake you made, a missed goal, or poor personal choices, there is an opportunity to learn and move forward. T
he Apostle Paul had to learn this very lesson himself, but he did learn it and even said, “Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before…. Phil. 3:13. You see sweet friend Paul learned the hard way, but never the less he learned and was laser focused on the race that he was running. He learned the importance to let things that had no spiritual value go and set his eyes on whatever God had for him in the future. Will you do that today?
Will you let those things that are harming you and your loved ones go and be willing to run the race that God is setting before you and stop looking back. Forget the baggage sweet friend from your past, leave it at the station of grace and get on the train to hope, for that is what pleases God and will get you to that place that you keep wanting to reach.