Some people would say that a husband and wife are capable of arguing more than anyone on the planet. At times married couples may even find themselves bickering at each other more than actually talking. And while I have participated in my fair share of arguments, I would like to disagree with the fact that a husband and wife argue more than anyone else.
I completely believe that mothers and their children hold that record, especially if you happen to have a “strong-willed” child. Although every one of my children were different, they still went through the same battle about being right over anything and everything. I think all children go through that! When I became a mother again, I had to do some serious brushing up on my parenting skills, especially when my son learned to hold a conversation with me and tell me his wants and things that he didn't want.
I remember when he learned that when going shopping if we intended to take anything from the store, we first had to give the person at the counter some money. At first he was not real happy about that concept because he liked money or at least the kind that “jingled” and fit in his pocket. But, after he learned how the whole “pay for it first” rule worked, he was really good about helping out when we got in the checkout line. But one day, his buddy, Curious George, went with us into the store.
Just as we came up to the counter, he began handing me the stuff from our basket. “Pay it, Mommy! Pay it!” Then, along with our groceries, he handed me Curious George. I politely told him thank you and handed George back to him. “No Mommy, pay it!” Again, he pushed George toward the counter. For the next several minutes following it was a full-out argument about why we didn't have to pay for George. There was simply no convincing him that he didn’t have to pay for something that was already his. I didn’t even make it to the door of the grocery store before I thought, “Someone needs to hear that message!”
You see, so often we get so overwhelmed with the burden of sin and failures in our life that it feels impossible to believe that Jesus has forgiven us and redeemed us, so we continually try to “pay” for the wrongs we have done with good works or continual pleadings for forgiveness. It will exhaust us to the point of wanting to give up trying when in reality, we are simply trying to pay for something that has already been bought and gain forgiveness for things that have already been forgiven.
Scripture tells us in Psalm 49:7-9 that “…no man can ransom another, or give to God the price of his life, for the ransom of their life is costly and can never suffice,.” But praise God, that “…God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. (Romans 5:8) Jesus paid the price for our sins and purchased our life on the cross at Calvary, so we can stop trying to purchase what we cannot buy and stop trying to pay for what is already bought. I can’t tell you what a relief that is!
Now, more than ever, it is a perfect time to seek to understand the greatest sacrifice that this world will ever know and to accept the greatest free gift that will ever be offered. Today I am still thankful for my argumentative toddler and his little toy monkey for that reminder, and thankful to the Lord for using him so often to reach my heart, and hopefully YOURS!